Meeting at a spouses of alcoholics meeting

This may be an upsetting post.

My mother is blackmailing me! She says she won’t give me my new Cpap supplies unless I clean my car. I had the supplies sent to her house because there are porch pirates at my place and my mailbox is tiny. Now, my Cpap is fine. I don’t NEED the supplies right now - it's just time to get new ones- but that not the point! She's just a mean person who SOMETIMES can act nice. I guess that's to put me off my guard. Anyway, it's no big deal to throw out a few things or put them in the trunk. The car is not the point! And Kevin threatened to never help me with my car again! I have never not thanked him for his car help! This is what happens when two people who are codependent get married. I get THIS! Yes, they met at a meeting for spouses of alcoholics. Even 25 years later that's a huge no-no! That's always bothered me - especially when they pull this type of thing. And I get to keep dealing with being an ACOA. No I don’t live with them! They still try to control me. My dad was the alcoholic and he’s been dead for 4 years and I’m STILL dealing with being ACOA!